After Her Sister Wed at 11, a Girl Began Fighting Child Marriage at 13

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Africa|After Her Sister Wed at 11, a Girl Began Fighting Child Marriage at 13

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/05/10/world/africa/child-marriage-malawi-memory-banda.html

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Memory Banda’s battle, which she has been waging since she was a teenager in a village in Malawi, started with a poignant question: “Why should this be happening to girls so young?”

Memory Banda stands in a profile in a field with a tree-covered hill rising behind her.
Memory Banda’s activism against child marriage began in a small village in Malawi she was just 13. Credit...Amos Gumulira for The New York Times

By Rabson Kondowe

Reporting from Ntcheu, Malawi

May 10, 2024, 5:03 a.m. ET

When they were children, Memory Banda and her younger sister were inseparable, just a year apart in age and often mistaken for twins. They shared not only clothes and shoes, but also many of the same dreams and aspirations.

Then, one afternoon in 2009, that close relationship shattered when Ms. Banda’s sister, at age 11, was forced to wed a man in his 30s who had impregnated her.

“She became a different person then,” Ms. Banda recalled. “We never played together anymore because she was now ‘older’ than me. I felt like I lost my best friend.”

Her sister’s pregnancy and forced marriage happened soon after her return from a so-called initiation camp.

In parts of rural Malawi, parents and guardians often send their daughters to these camps when they reach puberty, which Memory’s younger sister hit before she did. The girls stay at the camps for weeks at a time where they learn about motherhood and sex — or, more specifically, how to sexually please a man.

After her sister’s marriage, it dawned on Memory that she would be next, along with many of her peers in the village.


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